A Wedding And A Honeymoon All In One?

May 30, 2011 by  
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There is an increasingly large market these days for weddings that form part of a holiday. To be slightly more specific, many people are now taking the choice to get married in another country, allowing themselves a choice of settings which can be visually breathtaking, if not entirely traditional. There are many people who, when this concept is raised, think immediately of the celebrity weddings which have taken place on beaches with one or more of the participants less than fully clothed, sober or conscious. This does not tell the full story at all.

Certainly it could be argued that there is a touch of cynicism in combining the words “tourist” and/or “market” with the word “wedding”. And yet many places have developed a reputation as destinations for whole wedding parties rather than just the honeymoon. By widening the range of where you wish to hold your wedding, you can allow exciting settings such as castles, forests or just about anything you deem appropriate. As well as a geographical dimension, it can also allow a historic element to be included in your wedding.

Thinking more generally, it also means that the wedding photographs will be something to behold, that you do not have far to go for the honeymoon, and that, for couples who come from different places and live far from their families, at least the wedding can be at a neutral venue. It may not be one for the traditionalists, but it is a popular choice for an increasing number of people.

It’s A Nice Day For A White Wedding

May 18, 2011 by  
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The concept of a white wedding has been a constant for almost as long as people have been getting married. Unquestionably, there is a strong history behind the concept, but why is this, and is it still relevant in the present day?

For many, the reasoning behind a “white wedding” is that, on the day she comes to the altar, a bride is virginal. It is immediately easy to see why some people feel the concept to be outdated. In no way is this a slight on the woman getting married, but in the present day, a majority of couples who marry have been living, or at least occasionally spending the night together before they tie the knot. Is it really dishonest to wear white, the color of purity, when you have had a physical relationship with your prospective spouse?

Many would argue not. A white dress can be part of a wedding for more reasons than tradition. Some designs practically demand to be made in white because they are so intricate that adding color to the mix would be somewhat garish. Some people just want to wear white. If tradition were our only guide, we would all still be living in mud huts.

On the day you get married there are only two opinions that should be given foremost prominence, and they are those of the bride and of the groom. If you want a white wedding, then have one – and if you don’t, then that is also fine.

Wedding No-Nos

May 17, 2011 by  
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There are some things which should be obvious to anyone but which are, for whatever reason, blind spots to some. This is clear from the occasional situation which has been given light by the rise in reality TV, where some programs have emerged which feature a groom-to-be making the decisions for their wedding day while the bride sits back (usually at the home of a friend) and waits to see what her beloved achieves. As a result of this concept, there have been some horrific decisions made which should be obvious to anyone with half a brain.

Firstly, although a man may have two big loves in his life – his wife and his sports team – combining the two in a wedding scenario is perhaps the worst decision he could possibly make. If both partners are equally big fans of a team, involving their colors in the ceremony as part of one’s outfit may be acceptable. Otherwise, keep them away from the whole endeavor! Do not make the mistake of thinking that your marriage and your sports team are in any way equal.

Secondly, the venue for a marriage matters. You may be offered a deal which allows you to save money on the venue and gives you the chance to spend the money elsewhere. Your bride will, however, not thank you if the photographs from your big day feature the local sewage works.

And finally, don’t ever believe that holding the reception at your favorite bar is fine just because they know you there and will make you welcome. If it is a place with which you both feel a strong affinity, fine. If not, it just looks like a snub to her wishes.

The Changing Face Of Marriage

May 16, 2011 by  
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Some time ago, it was impossible to get married anywhere other than the interior of a religious building, and any ceremony conducted outside of these boundaries was considered not to constitute a genuine wedding. As times have changed, and our perceptions along with them, we find ourselves in an age where it is now easier to get married than it was before – and where the option to marry is extended to people who previously could not.

There are people who argue that this is a bad thing per se. Increasingly they find themselves in a minority, but they still insist that marriage, if it is to mean anything, should be between a man and a woman, married in the eyes of the church and within a church building – or whatever place of worship they are affiliated to. These people further argue that the ease of getting married leads to unions that should never have taken place – and in the case of some quickie marriages which are followed by equally speedy divorces, they may have the beginnings of a point.

However, it should be pointed out that many of the most secure marriages in place today, and the most monogamous unions, are unions that could never have taken place were the couple required to be church-going, mixed-sex, and of a high enough social standing to be accepted into the church. It requires some strength of character on the part of the couple getting married to ensure that these unions come about and are successful, but the times have certainly changed compared with the situation of a century ago.

Celebrities – Perhaps Not The Best Role Models

May 16, 2011 by  
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Although we live in a world where diverse tastes are accepted by more and more people, it has to be considered that there are some things which are very hard to argue in favor of. Not least of these is the terrifying three-word phrase: “Celebrity Inspired Wedding”. And yet, if you look briefly at the results of a Google search, you will find that there are many people making this choice. Considering how the marriages resulting from these weddings often turn out, it has to be wondered if taking inspiration from the celebrity world is quite wise.

If the celebrity is someone you have long admired and who influences your style in other ways, then there is an argument to say that you are being true to yourself by being true to them. If, however, you have simply seen the wedding photographs from their expensive and publicity-soaked wedding, you might want to slam on the brakes and think about things. Fashion is an unforgiving mistress. At any given time, a fashionable wedding might look like a real triumph, but those photos will exist in ten, twenty, thirty years’ time, and you are liable to cringe if the celebrity who inspired the look got divorced acrimoniously three months later.

Celebrities get a lot of latitude in what they do because they are celebrities. The media want to keep them sweet and will usually refrain from asking them what exactly they think they are doing. It is wiser to stick to the classics than follow a trend when permanence is an issue. If you want to follow a celebrity, wait until you’re married and copy their haircut.

Do you have Cold Feet? Don’t Just Walk Away.

May 15, 2011 by  
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It is fair to say that many people, on their wedding day or in the weeks leading up to it, have occasional periods of doubt over whether they are making the right decision by getting married. This situation is generally described as getting “cold feet”, a strange phrase which seems to have its roots in a time gone past when armies which had limited resources refused to fight on because they had lost or worn out their boots. In modern parlance, it means that due to a failure of daring you do not go ahead with something momentous.

It is understandable that people get this way in the run-up to their wedding day. The occasion of getting married is a pretty momentous one, which has far-reaching implications. While it may not constitute a massive change in the everyday living of your life, it does present something of a conundrum. Beforehand you were not married, and afterwards you will be. Although you would not have considered the idea of being unfaithful while you were merely dating or co-habiting, knowing that you can only be with the one person for the foreseeable future can be troubling for some.

It does not mean that you are not in love with the person you are about to marry, and it does not mean you will be making a mistake by marrying them. Indeed, any sportsman will tell you that nervousness is not necessarily a sign of partial or anticipated regret. It is just a natural reaction to the change in circumstances, but it is not a sign to call things off.

Keeping The Peace

May 14, 2011 by  
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As much as we would sometimes like to pretend otherwise, it is a fact that there are many people who never get along with their in-laws. No matter how much effort there is on either or both sides, sometimes personalities do not mesh. And there is little that can be done about it if this happens on a basic level. As much as you want your new bride (or groom) and your parents or siblings to be the best of friends, for them to see in each other what you see in them, sometimes there can be instinctive bad feeling between the two sides.

There is no magic wand you can wave and persuade two people, or two groups of people, who have mutual antipathy to start liking one another. Certainly, people can change their opinions on others over time, but trying to force it is not the answer. The only likely outcome of this is that people will react more angrily and potentially even violently towards individuals for whom they have an instinctive dislike so when deciding on seating plans for a wedding, it is wise to think ahead and work out where potential flashpoints may arise.

In addition, it is wise to take any of the more combustible elements on either side to one side and point out that this is your wedding day. If for no other reason, they really ought to be prepared to lay down their grudges for you, for this one day. That really is not too much to ask.

Now You See Me, Now You Don’t…

May 10, 2011 by  
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Given the implied importance of tradition for a wedding day, there are a lot of things that people superstitiously stick to even given their apparent inconvenience. One of these traditions is that the bride and the groom should not see one another from midnight on the day of the wedding until they meet at the altar. The idea is that, when their eyes meet in the witness of the wedding arena, they should look upon one another as if they were discovering anew the person with whom they will spend the rest of their life.

This is not, strictly speaking, a required part of the wedding and there are certainly plenty of couples celebrating major wedding anniversaries in the present day having spent the night before the wedding together. However, it is still stuck to by many, and can lead to logistical somersaults being turned by the couple in order to avoid running in to one another. In practice, this tends to mean the groom spending the eve of the wedding at the home of his best man, prior to a dash to the altar when they traditionally oversleep (this part is definitely not compulsory).

A couple who have lived together for some time prior to the ceremony may feel one of two ways – that they have seen each other every morning for a while and aren’t about to fix what isn’t broken, or that there is no point in tempting fate by breaking with tradition. In any case, it is not about what happens before the wedding, but what happens after it in the marriage.

The Financial Pitfalls Of Wedding Planning

May 9, 2011 by  
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A common complaint from couples planning a wedding is how much everything costs. It is entirely understandable that this should be the case – many of the things that one buys for a wedding are available at a much lower price until such time as you include the word “wedding”, at which point the price climbs steeply. Judging that a couple getting married will spend more because it is intended to be their only wedding in a lifetime, people very cynically expect them to pay higher, and in many cases absurd, prices.

One example of this would surely be the cake. Although intricate, a wedding cake does not really contain any ingredients which justify the price many bakers place on it. In fact, if the cake was sculpted out of roast pheasant, iced with caviar and topped with platinum likenesses of the bride and groom, it would still struggle to justify the price that some people end up paying. A wedding dress or suit, too, will magically triple in price the moment the possibility that it will be worn to a ceremony arises.

This is why it is important to be hard-nosed in negotiations in the run-up to your wedding. You should not be expected to spend so much, given that you are making plans for a life together – this is money which would be better spent on household necessities. Of course a bit of pageantry is fine – but don’t let yourself be mugged just because you are planning a special day.

Stags And Hens And The Things To Look Out For

May 8, 2011 by  
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Couples who are about to get married do tend to follow the traditions of the concept more or less to the letter. Very often, this means that on the eve of the wedding the happy couple will, separately, go for a night out with their friends, generally those friends of the same sex. For the groom-to-be this is a “stag” night, while for his prospective spouse it is called a “hen” night. As different creatures as stags and wildfowl may be, the nights that bear their names are broadly similar. Alcohol is taken, frequently a stripper is invited, and a hangover on the most important day of your life is almost inevitable.

The stag or hen night is trumpeted as the individual’s “last night of freedom”. This in itself is a description which is losing some of its relevance, as usually the couple involved will have been living together for some time. Just what level of freedom they have prior to and including this “last night” is an issue for their own consideration, but it is wise not to test the elasticity of the description too far. If you spent your last night as a technically single guy or girl with a stripper, the excuse of tradition would be unlikely to spare you a very angry revelation later on.

That said, there is nothing wrong with a stag or hen night per se. Things do become more serious after you have been married, and those who have not had a final night of independent fun prior to this often regret it. Just make sure you are in a fit state to show up at the ceremony the following day.

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